May 6
The more I have practiced avoiding, not surprisingly, the better I have gotten at it. When I practice saying no, “no” gets easier (which would be good if I were talking about not eating bagels at my office meeting). When I practice saying yes, no gets harder. But with exercise, I don’t need to get any better at saying no. Unfortunately I have a bit of a history of getting well practiced at the wrong things. Like how I tend to think I am somehow responsible for your feelings and not my feelings, when just the opposite is actually true.
When I say yes regularly, then that is what gets easier. One of my clients calls it “strengthening his yes muscle”, and like every other muscle, the more I exercise it, the stronger it gets.