June 23
And even if I do feel a bit of embarrassment, and sometimes even shame, over my lack of self-restraint, it is not only imprudent but downright self-sabotaging for me not to take this into consideration in virtually every circumstance that I have any control over. It is not like it is a surprise at this point in my life. Is it more embarrassing to ask if we can skip the bread basket or to eat the whole thing without restraint? A therapist friend of mine once said to me, “If this is the worst thing that anyone ever says about you, you are not doing too badly.”
Case in point: A client was embarrassed to bring fruit to a meeting (of all Ornish graduates, ironically enough). She felt it drew attention to her weight. I asked her if she thought that the 2 donuts she ate drew less attention. And besides, if people are going to be judgmental, they are going to do it whether you are doing something pro-weight management or contra-weight management. I know that when I am being judgmental, it is telling you more about my character than the character of the person I am judging.
Another Case in point: I had a client who is a very successful Therapist. She said to me one day that she also hated to move the breadbasket or ask to not have it on the table because she thought it brought attention to her weight. Then she said that she had this great insight one day that it is her weight that draws attention to her weight!
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