October 19
A great way to call my bluff on my promises about future payback is to ask myself to nail down the specifics of the promise. If I find myself resisting commitment to when and how I plan to reconcile my budget, chances are I am not planning to. Ever run into an old friend and after a few minutes of enthusiastic reuniting, you both agree that, “We have to do lunch sometime”, but no one takes out their calendar? Do you think that lunch is ever really going to happen? When I truly intend to get something done, I plan it. When I want to get a heavy crumb cake from B&W bakery, I go to great lengths to nail down exactly when in my calendar I have time to get to Hackensack and back (bearing in mind rush hour traffic, etc.) and the perfect timing to buy it so that it will be perfectly fresh for when I will be eating/serving it. I would never leave something that important to mere chance!
Case in point: Marie was invited out for a birthday dinner on a Wednesday night with an eating buddy friend of hers. She already had plans to go with her Mom the following night to celebrate both their birthdays. The plan was for her to introduce her Mom to her favorite high calorie meal at Bensi – Pan Fried Chicken Arugula. But, she could also admit from experience (and being willing to talk about it!) that when Saturday rolled around she would likely be unwilling to make that planned trade, no matter what she wanted to tell herself about that on Wednesday. So, she could either amend the Wednesday night plan, or she could nail Saturday down in advance to be a safe, reasonable eating night. But just winging it with a promise of future payback was likely to end in three very high calorie nights and yet one more week of her life of eating for a weight that was far above what she wants to weigh. People who weigh what she wants to weigh can’t eat that way either.
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